Excuses – The Thing Which You Make BEST!

10 Nov

I’m pretty sure that many of you must have said this phrase once in your life: “I’m fed up of your constant and lame excuses”. Many of us must have made some kind of excuses to get out of an unpleasant situation or to get out of something you didn’t want to – and that without feeling any remorse.

I also did make lots of excuses in life or rationalise my actions with all kinds of excuses. But as I grew up, I realised eventually that instead of making all kinds of excuses, I should take responsibility for my actions and just face it whatever be the consequences, instead of coming up with excuses and trying to get away with it.

Unfortunately not everyone does this!

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People often get ‘reasons’ and ‘excuses’ mixed up because there appears to be some crossover. Excuses allow people to remain in their uncomfortable comfort zone, dodge conflict by avoiding honesty both with others and themselves, dodge accountability, and cast themselves in a better light.

Saying “I’ve been really busy” gives the impression that you’re so busy (you know busier than a world leader) that you haven’t had the time to contact or see them whereas saying “I’m not interested / am half-hearted / have been trying to get back with my ex” will not only have you in the position of saying something that most people squirm at and possibly inviting ‘conflict’, but if you’re the type of person that likes to hedge your bets, you may want to keep them as a rainy day option. If anything you’re hoping they’ll take the hint and do your job for you and at the worst of things, you may be hoping the excuse allows you to avail of their ‘usefulness’.

Behind every excuse is the real reason.

Instead of accepting excuses, start accepting the reasons.

Why? Because not everyone will accept responsibility for their actions or inactions. Honesty and being direct may not be part of their life. The seeds of lying are planted and mature while people are in high school. When we don’t get caught up once for their excuses, this just strengthens their inclinations to lie the next time. Lies and excuses build on each other and create their own reality…a fake one!

You’ll know you’re living a healthy life when you don’t have to listen to excuses or make excuses!

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