Living beyond your feelings!

23 Oct

This morning while having a cup of tea and having a discussion with my dad, I learnt from him that you can’t be held responsible for anybody’s feelings, you are responsible only for yours and your own actions.

“People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  –Abraham Lincoln

The average person has 70,000 thoughts every day, and many of those thoughts trigger a corresponding emotion. No wonder so many of us often feel like we’re controlled by our emotions. Our lives would be much improved if we controlled them. Emotions, feelings… We have all felt it, at each step of our lives.

God gave us emotions on purpose. I believe our emotions play a vital role in living happy, healthy, successful lives. All emotions, from love and joy to anger and fear, have an important part to play in understanding ourselves and others. But this diversity of feelings is meant to complement our life, not determine it!

We need some emotion to motivate us, but it needs to be the right emotion at the right time applied in the right way. The more emotional we become, the stupider we become. This is because emotions want us to react blindly and physically rather than to think or be objective and rational. Being objective and rational when a lion was attacking wouldn’t have been great from an evolutionary point of view – because it would have slowed us down. But much of modern life needs measured calm thought rather than blind and sloppy emotional responses.

Knowing what emotion you are feeling is essential. Identifying the truth as to why you are feeling it means you are that much closer to doing something about it and to act upon it. No one can make you feel a certain emotion at any given moment. In just the same way, you can’t control the emotions another person feels. Taking responsibility for your emotions, and more importantly, not taking responsibility for anybody else’s is a step in ending unhappy relationship. Emotions are also determinants of your health state and the way you look. Cultivate your emotions and you’ll be healthy! 😉

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2 Responses to “Living beyond your feelings!”

  1. Dario May 18, 2013 at 3:24 pm #

    It’s an amazing feeling to see someone echo our own thoughts 🙂

  2. Maliha Bhugalee May 19, 2013 at 4:57 pm #

    🙂 Good to know!

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