The Quest For Perfection

6 Jun

The quest for perfection seems to never end. This is a story about the endless quest for perfection.  And I think it carries a valuable life lesson.

The Perfect Woman

Once upon a time, an intelligent, attractive, self-sufficient woman in her early twenties decided that she wanted to settle down and find a husband.  So she journeyed out into the world to search for the perfect man.

She met him in a conference.  He was handsome and well spoken.  In fact, she had a hard time keeping her eyes off of him.  He intrigued her.  It was the curves of his cheek bones, the confidence in his voice, and the comfort of his warm, steady hands.  But after only a short time, she broke things off.  “We just didn’t share the same religious views,” she said.  So she continued on her journey.

She met him again in a restaurant a few months later.  This time, he was an entrepreneur who owned a small, successful business.  And she learned, during an unforgettable lunch, that not only did they share the same religious views, he could also make her laugh for hours on end.  “But I just wasn’t emotionally attracted to him,” she said.  So she continued on her journey.

She met him again at a beachside café.  He was a doctor, but he easily could have been an underwear model for Calvin Klein.  For a little while, she was certain that he was the one.  And all of her friends loved him.  “He’s the perfect catch,” they told her.  “But we didn’t hang in the same social circle, and his high profile job consumed too much of his time,” she said.  So she cut things off and continued on her journey.

Finally, at a wedding, she met the perfect man.  He possessed every quality she had been searching for.  Very intelligent, handsome, spiritual, similar social circles, and a strong emotional connection – perfect.  She was ready to spend the rest of her life with him.  “But unfortunately, he was looking for the perfect woman,” she said.

The Story of Our Lives

As human beings, we often chase hypothetical, static states of perfection.  We do so when we are searching for the perfect house, job, friend, or lover.

The problem, of course, is that perfection doesn’t exist in a static state.  Because life is a continual journey, constantly evolving and changing.  What is here today is not exactly the same tomorrow.

That perfect house, job, friend, or lover will eventually fade to a state of imperfection.  Thus, the closest we can get to perfection is the experience itself – the snapshot of a single moment held forever in our minds – never evolving, never growing.

So rather than chasing an imaginary perfection, let’s  start chasing life by flipping past the imperfections found on the cover of every entity we encounter and into the blank pages of possibility waiting beneath the cover that will eventually tell the story of our lives.

With a little patience and an open mind, over time, I bet that imperfect house evolves into a comfortable home.  That imperfect job evolves into a rewarding career.  That imperfect friend evolves into a steady shoulder to lean on.  And that imperfect lover evolves into a reliable lifelong companion.

Courtesy: Marc and Angel Hack Life.

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2 Responses to “The Quest For Perfection”

  1. K_Wasseem June 6, 2010 at 6:09 pm #

    I agree with ‘..that perfection doesn’t exist in a static state..’.
    Every second, there’s a change in the state of a person, be it physical, emotional, behaviour or maturity of thought.

    As for the supposed perfect partner, it’s definitely hard to give an approximation, it will really depend on a lot of factors, but let’s consider some aspects assuming both parties have a maturity level:
    (I believe more in the ‘correct’ one instead of the ‘perfect’ one)

    I think the ‘correct’ one would be the one with an ‘open-mind’ and knowing exactly what he wants, keeping in mind the ‘evolving nature’ of life/things coupled with his own desires.

    Thus, when choosing a partner, simple factors like ‘how well they understand each other’ and ‘how well they can get along’ can sort things out. Since you can’t find someone who will share 100% of your likes/dislikes, I think those 2 factors might be the first 2 pillars of a solid relationship.

    The rest of the dislikes/differences can definitely be minimized with a level of compromise on both sides. The 3rd pillar would thus be ‘how prepared are both parties for making compromises’. Compromise from only one side, will not work properly I guess. It should definitely be on both sides.

    A 4th one, equally important, would be ‘are you prepared to be dedicated towards your partner’.

    (Open for discussions..)

    //Wasseem

  2. Navneet June 6, 2010 at 8:38 pm #

    Fantastic post! So real and true.
    This gurl must have been a virgo – always in quest of perfection .. Right? ;p

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